I am in chapter one and so far a great read. I am really enjoying the fact that I can do this book with out my husband or with him. Travis was actually the one who picked it out, but I am reading it first…but maybe we will together? I’ll keep you posted on it. I need to do the first exercise. Quite frankly I really enjoy more of a workbook type thing. I am also doing the ACT workbook, they work well together but they aren’t sold together. If that makes any since to anyone.
Have a wonderful day.
Tifani
How do you feel about finding/starting a new therapist? I am super anxious about having new insurance and knowing that I have to “start all over”. Though, I only see my therapist on an as needed basis, knowing that I will have to explain the back story all over again is never any fun. Three years with the same person, who has really taught me so much then those in the past and now having to switch because of insurance just isn’t fair! Oh the anxiety of it all 
My husband did propose a different way of thinking which was that maybe this new doctor will have different insights and perspectives. This could bring a whole new world to my door steps and I could learn to embrace the change!!
YES! LET’S RUN WITH THIS IDEA. LET US ALL EMBRACE THE CHANGE WE WANT TO BE AND KNOW THAT WE CAN INDEED GROW TO OUR FULL POTENTIAL!!!
Hugs to all,
Tiffani
Thank you for all the kind words of encouragement and support of the years of helping others heal. I know I am on the right path! I love knowing that every day we are all making a difference by talking about our stories and sharing our experiences with others. It does help. I wish this site had existed ten years ago when I had finally talked about the abuse by my father’s hands. It is not easy to over come, in fact I don’t think I’ll ever be “totally healed” but it feels great to get to a place where loving my husband doesn’t feel like a chore.
I am so very blessed with a great husband, AMAZING children, and a great family/friends structure of support.
I have been very busy with FaceBook, please join my site there and comment as you wish. Just as this site, it is for positive feedback only and all rude comments will be deleted.
Thank you.
Hugs.
Tiffani
9 years ago today started my healing process when I told my sister about the abuse from my father’s hands. It wasn’t easy. I remember it very clearly. It was so insanely difficult to get the first few words out, but I must say it changed my life for the better, forever. I love that I can talk and now help other people heal. I hate that I endured the abuse, but at the same time I have the strength to survive so much more because of it.
I know it may not be easy to talk about, but I encourage everyone to begin your healing process. We will all need different forms of “therapy.” Some of us need a group to relate to, others need one person, some might completely heal just through journaling. Whatever works for you, find the strength to start today and live your life for you.
Hugs to all.
Tiffani.Wampler@livingasecret.com
April 10, 2010 (Austin, Texas) – Tiffani Wampler spoke at SafePlace’s Field Day 2010, she spoke out about her experience and why it is so important to begin the healing process and let someone know about the abuse. Click the video link below to watch her short, but moving speech that opened the day’s events.
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With the upcoming SafePlace Field Day I was asked to write a quick bio of my story, what I want to represent, and my message for a radio show I will be interviewing with on April 17th (links to come). I wanted to share those thoughts with you.
From the time I was 12 years old until I was 17, I was sexually abused by my father. Through those years I learned how to wear a mask that no one, even my closest friends could see through. Some survivors wear a mask out of shame and guilt; I wore a mask to protect my family. I knew that if I told anyone about my father that my family would end up separated. At 19 my father tried to rape me. My parents had finally divorced and I had a little niece to protect who just adored her Grandpa. With those thoughts in mind, I turned my father in a week later. He currently sits in prison serving a 15 year sentence. It has not been an easy road. I have endured countless sexual encounters, meaningless relationships, and depression while trying to survive the effects of this abuse. I still struggle with how to have relationships with men. I can say, now married three years, that it is a lot of work but worth every minute of it. If there is one message that I could get through to any survivor it would be YOU CAN LIVE A NORMAL LIFE! Trust me, it is not easy. There will be good days and there will be a lot of bad days. There could be days where getting out of bed to eat will be the biggest challenge you have ever faced. Then there are days where you can’t shut the world away and just wish you could. But DON’T! I know it’s a difficult time in your life right now, but please trust me when I say YOU WILL SURVIVE THIS! Don’t expect to do it alone. Your best friend, your therapist, an on line support group will all have something to contribute. Even a teddy bear you can hug when you need to will help you get through those tough times.
It may not be easy, but you can do this! Hugs to your healing process!!!
Tiffani Wampler
To start I don’t miss the Dad I had, but the one I should have had. So please don’t confuse that I miss the person who is actually my father.
I am watching The Locator. A show that appears on WE tv. I hardly watch as I sit and cry through every episode. Though, I have no idea what it feels like to be a adopted or to have adopted my child to someone, I do know the feeling of emptiness by not having a father in my life. I clearly know who my biological father is, but he is not the father I wish I had. He is simply the man who made it possible for me to be here, but I still miss the ideal dad that other people have had in their life.
I have never had the father I could lean on for guy advice, as my father was jealous of every man in my life and therefore would do what he could to keep me single. I miss the dad I could call and share a silly story about his grandchildren and not worry that he is thinking sick and twisted thoughts. I miss the idea of growing up in a secure household that gave me the ability to understand life a little better.
I hate that I don’t have a dad to run to, hug, know, trust, believe in, and feel support from!!!
Hugs,
Tiffani
I don’t wish to take up much of your time, but I come to you and the law makers of America in complete ANGER! I am a survivor of sexual abuse! I have spent ten years on and off in therapy to realize I can live a normal and healthy life. However, not everyone has the ability or support to heal. The main issue victims of abuse face is the “slap on the wrist” laws that do not protect the victim, but the abusers! There is no just in a system that continues to allow these men and women get away with the crimes they comment, when in fact their victims are more likely to commit suicide then attempt surviving the pain that goes hand in hand with abuse. They kill our souls and the people we could have been. I will never understand how anyone can harm a child, but the reality is, IT IS HAPPENING!!! Something has got to stop these people from being able to commit these crimes over and over again. A serial child molester has over 400 victims. How on earth does that person deserve probation and the SILLY laws that surround the probation time frame. Yes, it sounds great that they can’t live with in a certain range of children/schools. Or that they cannot work in particular areas and need to register themselves as a sex offender. BUT we all know this isn’t working. This system is failing the future children of the world. How many more children such as Cheslea King do we need to see die from the hands of an abuser? I can only hope that in due time SOMEONE realizes that this crime is up to par with MURDER and needs to be taken seriously!!!
Thank you for your time,
Tiffani Wampler
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Their mission: Empowering survivors to be present and thrive in their lives.
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Psychotherapist
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Denver/Centennial/Littleton, CO
reaca@pearlhealingllc.com
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