I am in chapter one and so far a great read. I am really enjoying the fact that I can do this book with out my husband or with him. Travis was actually the one who picked it out, but I am reading it first…but maybe we will together? I’ll keep you posted on it. I need to do the first exercise. Quite frankly I really enjoy more of a workbook type thing. I am also doing the ACT workbook, they work well together but they aren’t sold together. If that makes any since to anyone.
Have a wonderful day.
Tifani
How do you feel about finding/starting a new therapist? I am super anxious about having new insurance and knowing that I have to “start all over”. Though, I only see my therapist on an as needed basis, knowing that I will have to explain the back story all over again is never any fun. Three years with the same person, who has really taught me so much then those in the past and now having to switch because of insurance just isn’t fair! Oh the anxiety of it all 
My husband did propose a different way of thinking which was that maybe this new doctor will have different insights and perspectives. This could bring a whole new world to my door steps and I could learn to embrace the change!!
YES! LET’S RUN WITH THIS IDEA. LET US ALL EMBRACE THE CHANGE WE WANT TO BE AND KNOW THAT WE CAN INDEED GROW TO OUR FULL POTENTIAL!!!
Hugs to all,
Tiffani
Thank you for all the kind words of encouragement and support of the years of helping others heal. I know I am on the right path! I love knowing that every day we are all making a difference by talking about our stories and sharing our experiences with others. It does help. I wish this site had existed ten years ago when I had finally talked about the abuse by my father’s hands. It is not easy to over come, in fact I don’t think I’ll ever be “totally healed” but it feels great to get to a place where loving my husband doesn’t feel like a chore.
I am so very blessed with a great husband, AMAZING children, and a great family/friends structure of support.
I have been very busy with FaceBook, please join my site there and comment as you wish. Just as this site, it is for positive feedback only and all rude comments will be deleted.
Thank you.
Hugs.
Tiffani
April 10, 2010 (Austin, Texas) – Tiffani Wampler spoke at SafePlace’s Field Day 2010, she spoke out about her experience and why it is so important to begin the healing process and let someone know about the abuse. Click the video link below to watch her short, but moving speech that opened the day’s events.
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To start I don’t miss the Dad I had, but the one I should have had. So please don’t confuse that I miss the person who is actually my father.
I am watching The Locator. A show that appears on WE tv. I hardly watch as I sit and cry through every episode. Though, I have no idea what it feels like to be a adopted or to have adopted my child to someone, I do know the feeling of emptiness by not having a father in my life. I clearly know who my biological father is, but he is not the father I wish I had. He is simply the man who made it possible for me to be here, but I still miss the ideal dad that other people have had in their life.
I have never had the father I could lean on for guy advice, as my father was jealous of every man in my life and therefore would do what he could to keep me single. I miss the dad I could call and share a silly story about his grandchildren and not worry that he is thinking sick and twisted thoughts. I miss the idea of growing up in a secure household that gave me the ability to understand life a little better.
I hate that I don’t have a dad to run to, hug, know, trust, believe in, and feel support from!!!
Hugs,
Tiffani
60% of abuse isn’t reported!!! It doesn’t surprise me, but I hope we can change it in the future. The only way the cycle stops is when we report the abuse!!!
Even if you more out, leave, or tell a friend…the abuse could be happening to someone else. Allowing the authorities to take over will only give you greater odds in the justice system protecting you and preventing it from happening to someone else!!
Hugs
Tiffani
After watching the Good Morning America clip about the kidnapping of Chelsa King, and the possibilities she was kidnapped by a registered sex offender I am just stunned that the world continues to only freak out when we have moments like this. Thankfully Chelsa made headline news, but please EVERYONE realize this is happening on a daily basis. We have got to start doing everything we can to fight this crime and make those who offend suffer a punishment that does not allow them out of prison on good behavior. We need to buckle down and pay attention to the offenders and force them to abide by the laws set forth to protect the innocent.
It amazes me that my father was able to be up for parole in three SHORT years of serving his term. He has no right to walk the streets and be free just so someone else can fall prey to his sweet mannerisms. manipulative gesters, and controlling mind games. These TYPE OF PEOPLE know how to use the system in their favor. They know how to get into the hearts of children to get them to trust them and believe their lies.
I don’t know what the next step is, but I do know that law makers have got to become more aware of this horrible crime. They are killing the people we could have been. It is a crime one never forgets, and yet it is treated with a slap on a wrist.
Please help. We need more voices to stand up and do something.
Tiffani
I have completed chapters one and two. I will certainly say this book would be a hard read for anyone who is easily triggered. I think it could be healing for some, just within these few chapters, because it is very discriptive. I know that one of the reasons many who survive abuse join blog sites and or sites like DailyStrength is to find people who can relate and/or understand what they have suffered through. I know when it comes to hearing a story a heck of a lot worse than yours, it makes you seem as though you can survive because those who had worse have made it this far in life, certainly you can too!
I will continue to blog about the book. I hope to read it through the next few days.
My heart continues to go out to Gregg and his family. I applaud his courage to heal and assist other’s in their healing process.
Hugs,
Tiffani
“Silence is the abuser’s friend” – Michael Skinner
This couldn’t be more true. The more we are able to speak up and speak out about our abuse, the more likely we are to change peoples perspectives of sexual abuse…the more we are able to help others come forward…therefore putting an end to this viscous cycle.
Please talk! I know it is not easy. Sometimes keeping the silence can make us feel as if it didn’t really happen. The truth is, it did happen, and the faster you are able to start your healing process the quicker you are able to live a healthy life. You are worth every effort it will take to heal.
Hugs.
Tiffani
I know that sometimes it is easier to live under a black cloud then come out to enjoy the sunshine. I had severe depression the entire time I was putting my dad away…so I do understand how easy it is to stay in bed and leave the outside world to everyone else. In those times, try to focus on the good life has to offer. Don’t get me wrong, sometimes it’s insanely difficult to see…but it is there.
Happiness can be found in your children’s laughter, a great comedy, taking a walk outside to listen to the birds sing, and even just doing something only for you. I often find great joy when I take time to be selfish, as it is something I hardly do. However you are able to find a moment to laugh, just take it and enjoy it!
I know times are not easy. But I do promise you it will get better. As always we are here for support!!!
Hugs
Tiffani
