I have spent the past week doing research on sexual abuse. I have found some fantastic information and resources that just prove that we are NOT crazy! LOL. It is so important that we all get on board to start understanding that we are “normal.” It may not be what society views as “normal” but we are normal for how we grew up and all that we endured. Sexual abuse has many symptoms, responses, and feelings…all of which is completly OK!
One article I found very intersting is about spanking being considered sexual abuse. I was spanked all of four times in my childhood all of which were before the abuse ever started. After reading this article I do not consider those spankings sexual abuse, HOWEVER I do agree with what this woman endured as a child and many others like her, did experience sexual abuse. You are not alone if you feel that your beatings were more about getting someone off then punishment.
She described in great detail the way her father would make her bend over further and further, bare bottom, and she didnt dare put her hands on her bottom as that only resulted in more beatings. WOW. It was a hard read and could cause so many triggers for those who were abused in the same ways.
Hugs.
Tiffani Wampler
Hey, i do agree that in some cases spanking is sexuall abuse.
Read Alice Miller–physical humiliation of children has terrible consequences. Yes, spanking is abuse.
I will have to check it out. I do think there is a fine line to abuse and spanking. I know that back in the day it was what parents did, lack of education on parenting (if you will), but I have never thought of someone being spanked very few times as abuse…but multiple times in one setting, over and over….that to me is wrong on every level.
Hugs,
Tiffani Wampler