I have completed chapters one and two. I will certainly say this book would be a hard read for anyone who is easily triggered. I think it could be healing for some, just within these few chapters, because it is very discriptive. I know that one of the reasons many who survive abuse join blog sites and or sites like DailyStrength is to find people who can relate and/or understand what they have suffered through. I know when it comes to hearing a story a heck of a lot worse than yours, it makes you seem as though you can survive because those who had worse have made it this far in life, certainly you can too!
I will continue to blog about the book. I hope to read it through the next few days.
My heart continues to go out to Gregg and his family. I applaud his courage to heal and assist other’s in their healing process.
Hugs,
Tiffani
“Silence is the abuser’s friend” – Michael Skinner
This couldn’t be more true. The more we are able to speak up and speak out about our abuse, the more likely we are to change peoples perspectives of sexual abuse…the more we are able to help others come forward…therefore putting an end to this viscous cycle.
Please talk! I know it is not easy. Sometimes keeping the silence can make us feel as if it didn’t really happen. The truth is, it did happen, and the faster you are able to start your healing process the quicker you are able to live a healthy life. You are worth every effort it will take to heal.
Hugs.
Tiffani
A friend of mine pointed me to the Men Against Violence organization. After reading through the pages of information I am in total shock of the statistics!!! A must read and please help them out any way you can.
Thanks!
Hugs.
Tiffani
I know that sometimes it is easier to live under a black cloud then come out to enjoy the sunshine. I had severe depression the entire time I was putting my dad away…so I do understand how easy it is to stay in bed and leave the outside world to everyone else. In those times, try to focus on the good life has to offer. Don’t get me wrong, sometimes it’s insanely difficult to see…but it is there.
Happiness can be found in your children’s laughter, a great comedy, taking a walk outside to listen to the birds sing, and even just doing something only for you. I often find great joy when I take time to be selfish, as it is something I hardly do. However you are able to find a moment to laugh, just take it and enjoy it!
I know times are not easy. But I do promise you it will get better. As always we are here for support!!!
Hugs
Tiffani
Though I do welcome all opinions and respect those who disagree with me, please keep in mind that Living A Secret is a site to offer support, information, and a place to share our stories so that we may all heal together. If you do not wish to respect those who are mentioned on this site please keep your comments to yourself! Any comments I deem inappropriate will be deleted and are unwelcomed!
If you’d like to offer support than of course, please feel free to use LAS as a place to communicate with survivors.
Thanks for understanding!
Tiffani
Hey guys. here’s the link to my Facebook fan page…join us!!!
Take the time to believe in yourself and your story. I know it’s not always easy being a survivor and often it seems that living the life of a victim is easier than dealing with the truth. However, it really doesn’t give you much of a reason to look forward to your tomorrows. Try to do your best in finding your inner strength and beauty. I promise you there will be day that surviving just comes as easy as dealing with the pain.
Hugs to you and your healing process.
Tiffani Wampler
Just in case you missed yesterday’s show, here is the link. Lots of support goes out to Gregg and his family.
http://www.oprah.com/oprahshow/Raped-by-His-Mother-Gregg-Milligans-Story
hugs,
Tiffani Wampler
After watching Oprah today I can honestly say I cannot imagine having survived what Gregg endured at such a young age. I agree with Oprah that it is quite a miracle that he has lived a successful life along with maintaining some sort of normal in relationships with his wife, family, and son. I am almost speechless as to how it made me feel to watch someone I “know” talk about the pain the abuse caused their life.
Having to feel the need to protect his siblings has got to be a huge weight at any age, much less 9 years old and up. No child should ever understand that kind of suffering, nor be the protector of their family when they are unable (due to reality of age) protect themselves. I am so sorry that this was the case and I am quite thankful that there was a day Gregg realized in order to save his sister he had to get out; in turn he saved himself.
There has got to be some sort of justice to those who commit such horrendous crimes! No child should ever endure what this man or millions of other children are going through on a daily basis.
Gregg, I am so proud of you for sharing your story and stopping the cycle of abuse in your family. I am certain you have reached millions today and of that, thousands will speak up (we can hope, right?) !!!! Hugs to you and yours.
Hugs,
Tiffani Wampler
I am super excited to have finally placed my order for A Beautiful World…wow, that took a few months! LOL
HE is appearing on Oprah today. Make sure you check it out. I hope it will be one Oprah puts online so my readers can be linked to it, but do not fear…I will blog about it after the show.
(To order the book visit amazon.com)
Hugs to all,
Tiffani Wampler